Do you ever run across those adverts that say things like "spice up your love life" "be sexy for date night" " drive your man wild!"
Sure you have, I have.
And while they are very cliche and probably over used at this point, they are still around because we simply havent found a better way to express ourselves about the topic.
Really what we are asking for is:
" Hey, do you have something that will make my partner find me irresistable and he/she will never look at another human being in a sexual way ever again! AND... they will always be respectful, faithful, kind and generous to me. They will always put me on a pedastool of love and admiration."
"Oh and can I get a great return policy on that.... just in case"
If your anything like me when you come across this outdated way of advertising, you probably roll your eyes... but wait... maybe they have found the magic ingredient! I will just see what they have to say!
It ain't gonna happen!
Simply by donning a new great fitting pair of jeans that are " cut to make your ass look perfect" or putting on a luxurious piece of lingerie is not going to make your partner or anyone else fall madly in love with you and propose on the spot!
Deep down I know that all of us know this to be true.
So, what are we really hoping to gain when we purchase these products that play on our insecurities and fears?
I believe we are looking for that intimacy... that deeply rooted connection with the other person.
A feeling of being able to really relax and just be who you are!
Even if that means that you cut your toenails in the bed and like to pick your nose while driving!
Now don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with dressing up for your partner. I do it all the time.
But if I truly just don't feel like it, that is okay too.
That is why I stress so much on Sheer Fetish to please buy it for YOU! wear it because it makes you feel good, because you love the feel of the fabric on your skin. JUST FOR YOU!
Which brings me to my point of being the cinnamon!
Try this instead, DO NOT put on something sexy!
Instead put on your most comfortable pajamas, climb into bed and just kiss your partner!
Kiss them like when you went on your first date, with passion and a craving!
Do this for at least 3 minutes and see what happens.
I guarantee they will not care what you are wearing! And neither will you...
It is more about keeping the connection and the intimacy alive than it is about what you have on. BE THE CINNAMON!
YOU ( not what you are wearing is the spice that ignites the intimacy and a great night! ) are the spice!
And to help things along I have included a recipe for a hot spiced rum drink. Perfect for a fall night with your significant other.
- 1 tablespoon butter (soft)
- 1 teaspoon brown sugar
- 1 dash cinnamon (ground)
- 1 dash nutmeg (ground)
- 1 dash allspice (ground)
- 1 splash vanilla extract
- 2 ounces rum (dark)
- 5 ounces water (hot)
Gather the ingredients.
Pour in the rum and top it with hot water.
Serve and enjoy!
- Make sure that your water is hot, but not boiling. If the water is too hot it can ruin the flavors of the drink. Think of it like making tea and heat your water as if you're brewing a cup of Earl Grey.
- Use a little more or less butter if you like. A tablespoon is common, though you might enjoy it just a little richer with 1 1/2 tablespoons.
- Adjust the spices to suit your taste. Some people prefer more cinnamon or nutmeg while others don't enjoy allspice, so be sure to customize it.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Please leave your comments below!
Tara (owner of Sheer Fetish)